In Response @KatChatfield @Becjuddloves @SarahAMurdoch @DailyMailUK


What kind of world do we live in when a new Mum gets bashed for excitedly sharing parts of her parenting journey with the world?
When I saw the article written by @KatChatfield targeting me about my choices in sharing information and pictures about my experiences thus far as a pregnant woman and Mother, I wondered why was it that my little family was at the forefront of this bashing? I'm basking in the joy of being a new mum to my darling boy yet I'm supposed to feel shame for sharing my experiences because my happiness has had or could have a negative effect on another Mother.
Can't we just embrace, love and support our Mums and smile along with them when they post pictures of their babies or talk about their birth? Mums shouldn't feel like they have to keep certain aspects of their life hidden out of fear that people will draw comparisons and start to judge themselves. Passing judgement and having negativity surrounding it speaks to an unfair pressure that is self inflicted. Instead if we practice embracing ourselves and our experiences and meeting them with more gratitude, greater compassion and deeper love, then any feelings of resentment or negativity towards another Mother (or anyone for that matter) would be replaced with a feeling of a collective joy that we are amazing human beings that get to parent and nurture and take care of precious children in whichever way we see fit.
A few months back I posted a video of myself on my wellness and positivity site www.yourzenlife.com called "What I Learnt From My Birth" I talk about how when my homebirth didn't go as planned that I realised that there was such a beautiful gift in that. It taught me about letting go of expectations which has single handedly been the best lesson in parenting. I've surrendered to the uncertainty of it all and it's been a beautiful ride because of that. Without the acceptance that things don't always go to plan I could've held resentments towards others who seemingly had the experience they had dreamed about but instead I chose to look at my birth as perfect for us. Our choices are perfect for us. They are not greater than or less than, it's just our life.
The negativity and judgement (fear voice) is an epidemic in these so called "Mommy Wars" it breaks my heart that these wars even exist but by cultivating self love and acceptance we can start to change this.
In finishing, I honesty feel no resentment toward Katherine and although I felt protective of my son after seeing the pictures of me and him used to accompany her article, my truth is that I immediately thought how incredible it is that this woman is about to embark on this wonderful journey of parenting. I wish for her that through the peaks and valleys of her journey that she feels at peace whether or not her experiences are what she had envisioned or planned and that she faces these moments with limited criticism of herself and others around her.
My sincerest wish however is that we can meet ALL people, Mothers, Fathers, and the general public alike with an open heart and an encouragement of one another that can truly start to see positive change in our world.

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